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Fact: In relationship studies, traditional "attraction" wears off within 18-24 months of dating.
This statistic probably corresponds to what you've experienced in real life — namely, that it's hard to get "excited" about someone with whom you've been intimate with for two years straight.
Had he just been a goof ball with nothing else to offer it would have been really disappointing.
He was also genuine, intelligent and overall well rounded, good man with plenty to offer.
So if life becomes more about responsibility, friendship, compatibility and all those other "boring" things that old married couples cite, how much emphasis should we put on physical attraction in our 20's and 30's? We're attracted to what we're attracted to — often to our own detriment. However, this is presuming that there's a steady baseline of attraction from which to grow.
It's no secret that compatibility is a stronger predictor of relationship health than chemistry. Which is how men end up with hot, crazy women and women end up with hot, emotionally unavailable men. If there is no attraction from the start, then there's no room for it to grow down the road — and that's a rough proposition for you to endure with a boyfriend.
Yet chemistry is what we chase — somehow hoping that it turns into compatibility, as well. Just look at your most "passionate" past relationships. Thus, it's impossible to convince yourself to give a shot to someone you're simply NOT attracted to, and no amount of rational thinking is going to overcome your genetic and cultural biases.
As dating guru David De Angelo says, "Attraction is not a choice." We're still going to crave choice, variety and something approximating societal ideas of perfection, however unrealistic this might be.